Kickstart Change--Self-Esteem vs. Confidence

Self-esteem vs. confidence.  I talk about what confidence is in the video "What Is Confidence?" back on the main Kickstart Change membership page (Scroll down a bit on that page and you'll see it).

In a nutshell confidence is:

  • a skill that can be improved​,

  • a willingness to try and trust that you'll figure it out--whatever you're struggling with,

  • a willingness to act even when you're afraid or uncertain, and trust that even if you fail, you'll learn from the experience.

No matter where you are on your journey--confidence journey, life journey--your willingness to try unlocks your potential.

Now, let's compare that to self-esteem:

  • It's your overall opinion of yourself.

  • When your self-esteem is healthy, you feel good about yourself.

  • When your self-esteem isn't so healthy, you don't feel so good about yourself.

  • You don't value your opinions and ideas.

  • You think you're not good enough.

  • It's self-judging.

  • With self-esteem, you need to feel good about yourself.  This can hold you back.  You aren't willing to risk feeling bad, so you don't try anything new.

  • With self-esteem, you need to win to feel good, but it's always a competition--one competition after another, after another that you don't appreciate, recognize as enough, and celebrate--so you never really win.

  • It comes from the outside.  If the source of that self-esteem fades, leaves or is taken away, your self-esteem fades, leaves, is taken away.

  • It is boosted by success and diminished by failure.

See the difference between the two?

How's your self-esteem vs. your confidence?  To explore your own personal experience with each, check out the Self-Esteem vs. Confidence Worksheet.  Click the Submit button at the bottom of the worksheet to share your responses with me.  For those of you with access to the Kickstart Change Facebook Group, you can go ahead and share your answers there as well.  I'm looking forward to seeing what you have to say.  If you don't have access to the Facebook group and would like to, check out  information about leveling up to Kickstart Change 2 or 3.  If you have any questions, email me at  Enjoy!